We as women can sometimes be our own harshest critics. We make plans, set goals and get sidetracked, and then the enemy starts shooting arrows and even weakening our way of thinking more to a point where we want to just give up. Well, I want to remind you what God says in his word:
“And be not conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” Romans 12:2 (NKJV)
In order to get over the brokenness, we must renew our minds daily. Even though it sounds hard to do with practice it becomes easier. Our minds can be a festering playground for the enemy if we allow it to be. Things we have not let go of, and people who have hurt us all become a part of the plague of remaining in a broken state. A broken heart that has never been mended from broken promises and broken relationships leads to depression, anger, hate, and rebellion. When we have all these weights in our mind how can we be set free to focus on the goals or plans for our future? The answer simply is it is impossible. You will always keep reversely going back to the safety net of impure emotions like depression, hate, rage, jealousy, and rebellion when it becomes convenient for you. The only way to truly get rid of these is by making peace with the situation that first lead you to feeling broken.
I usually tell women to make a list and write down the things and or people that trigger certain feelings inside you. We were not born with a spirit of depression, so what event made you feel depressed? We were not born angry, so you need to search your heart and mind and discover what caused you to be angry and remain angered, and why you haven’t been able to let it go? This list can go on until we get to the core of that secret place in our hearts and minds where we store the unclaimed baggage that Jesus died on the cross for.
When Jesus died for our sins over 2,000 years ago he destroyed anything that could possibly hold us back. Our problem is that we don’t give it to him. We hold on to the tragedies and use them as barter in our souls to “protect” ourselves from ever feeling that low, or broken again. Even though that is generally the way we operate, unfortunately, it is not spiritually healthy. When we constantly hold on to situations or people who have hurt us, we leave little to no room for the new blessings that God wants to put in our lives. This is why it is crucial that we renew our minds daily because everyday people will do things to attempt to discourage us and try to make us feel a way that turns that discouragement into distraction and then we are lost. Beating ourselves up and then usually never getting free from that attack only to be served another one that hits us and we are unable to recover at all so we just stay wounded stuck, and broken.
Once we are in the habit of renewing our mind a part of that means letting IT go. Usually to let things go means we need to learn and practice forgiveness. Even when you have a problem with someone. In Mark 11:25 the bible clearly tells us that when we Pray, we must forgive everyone so that God will forgive us. If we are going to say to someone that we have forgiven them, then we need to mean it, and then let IT go. If letting IT go is difficult as it sometimes may be, then give IT to Jesus our burden bearer when we think about the person or the situation so he can truly fix IT for you and your forgiveness will be genuine. Once we are able to get in the practice of forgiving, then renewing our minds daily is easier and we can create an atmosphere of overcoming. We will be able to politely hit the enemy back with whatever he throws your way by telling him “I rebuke you satan in the name of Jesus, you have NO hold over me!” And mean it with the power of the Spirit, and authority given to us by Jesus when he ascended to Heaven.
The only way we stay brokenhearted, captive, depressed, oppressed, enraged, angry, or sad is if we want to stay that way.
In Galatians 5:22 the bible refers to the “Fruit of God’s Spirit is Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, and Self-Control. Against these things, there is no law.” Which means we can love, and be joyful, and have patience, and be kind and good, and increase in faithfulness, and be gentle, and exemplify self-control in every situation and do it as much as we want because no one can ever have too much of these Godly characteristics. This is the perfect and acceptable will of God that we manifest the fruit of his Spirit, and remain in nothing contrary to that.
Key Thought: Focus on those things that are acceptable to God such as an increase in the Fruit of His Spirit in your life. Turn everything else over to Jesus and let him take away every burden, and pain until it is nothing but peace.
Prayer: “Lord I am heavy in my spirit I have held onto many weights, and burdens for a long time now and I’m afraid to really let these things go. I want to be free, I want to be healed, and I want to receive my deliverance so that I can be filled more Lord with the fruit of your spirit in my life"
