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Mother Wings II

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Make sure you have first read Mother Wings Part I

“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.  For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.” (NIV)

Matthew 7:7-8

 

In a perfect world as a parent we would program our children to do exactly what we want them to do.  Make the exact choices for their career, pick the perfect like-minded friends, and spouses and make sure they become scholars and excel at everything they attempt to do.  Ahh how nice it would be to grant our children this perfect life reflecting our perfect parenting skills, and the perfect pathway we have set up for them. Unfortunately, this isn’t exactly how things work out well at least for most parents.  No matter how well we do as parents, and even with the support and guidance we give our children, the guarantee that when they have the opportunity to make choices on their own they will make good choices is not always the case. I have learned from being a parent that this is the absolute most vulnerable job that we have that is never ending.  I always say that being a parent is like having a portion of your heart outside of your body that travels down its own and may wind up being susceptible to all kinds of hurt, pain, and disappointment they will be out of our control. Being a parent is a Blessing even the bible says in Psalms 127:3-4 that “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from Him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth.” (NIV) It is no wonder that we want to shape and guide and direct the pathway we desire for them to go down, but sometimes maybe even more times then we care to admit our desire for our children may not very well be God’s desire or plan for them.

Remembering back to my own childhood, I always wanted to sing and write even though my passion was and still is writing but I also loved to sing so naturally I thought singing was the way to go. I believed singing was the path I was destined to be on, and of course I would write my own songs. When my mother signed me up for piano lessons I couldn’t understand what learning how to play the piano had to do with me learning how to sing.  The piano teacher I had at the time was working for some very popular mainstream singers and she would say “Hey if you want to be a singer, you’ve got to sing and practice often you should want to know how to play the music on the piano you want to sing.” As a child I didn’t know what to do with that information because I’m listening to the radio and all I hear is singing beautiful voices making beautiful music, not knowing or realizing what it took for those singers to gain success.  My mother would say every day “you should practice” and I might start off practicing in the beginning of the week, but by week’s end I wouldn’t practice. My mother heard my desire and supported me the best she could, but I didn’t listen to the teacher or my mother, and I never became a singer. When we are showing support for our children and they aren’t listening to the wise counsel, the best thing to do is Pray. When you Pray you are putting into place the effects of the powerful parent warrior within asking God above to direct this arrow (your child) to hit the marks that only God could have established for him/her.  It is scary to think that there is nothing you can do or say that can direct your child along their chosen pathway, but Prayer is the most powerful that we can give and will be more likely received than solicited and unsolicited advice.

Most of the time children will want to establish themselves as an adult without your help because they are learning the world and what works for them.  Therefore, often they become slightly or majorly rebellious against anything you say. I love the scripture that goes with this post because Jesus says in Matthew 7:7 “Ask and it will be given to you, seek and you will find, knock and the door will be opened to you.” (NIV) As a parent our job is to ask God for the protection for our children, to seek Him for the guidance for our children and to knock for direction for our children.  Our children are God’s children before they were ours and even though He has entrusted us to be their earthly parent He is also entrusting us to come to Him as the head of our life, so He can give us what we need to adequately perform as a parent. It is true that the bible says if we train up our children in the Lord when they are old they won’t depart from their training, but maybe we didn’t receive God ourselves until we were older, and all our children were grown and already making decisions on their own.  Be encouraged that is why it is so important that whatever point you are at in parenting whether your children are newborn, teenagers, or adults we can still have an impact on their life without ever even saying a word. We don’t ever need to take matters into our own hands concerning someone else’s life we should always consult God first! Ask Him, seek Him, and knock the door down with your request and your Praise and God will respond with giving you favor and leading you to receive the guidance and direction down the pathway He wants for you as a parent and what He desires for your children.  Turn your parenting choices back over to God; the One with the Master plan.


Key Thought: Our children are a precious gift from God and sometimes we want to direct their life the way we want to, but we as parents should always consult God for every choice concerning our children’s life so they will excel on the path God has for them.

Prayer: “Oh Lord I am asking for your guidance over my child(ren) I desire the best for them God but maybe my desires don’t line up with your will for their life. Teach me to give Godly support and guidance so my child(ren) will have all they need to achieve to their full potential in this life. I Pray for your protection over them from dangers seen and unseen. God keep them ever before your throne of Grace in Jesus name, Amen.”

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Mother Winged

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If only as a parent our children could gain access to the strings of our hearts or better yet our minds and see the desires we have for them.  If they only knew that even though it may seem we were created as adults and never had a childhood, never experienced peer pressure, never made a bad choice, and never wanted to not take heed to the valuable advice that comes along with the age of wisdom offered by our own parents. 

It feels like no matter how much we say “been there done that, got the t-shirt” our children still don’t grasp what we are trying to keep them from.  They don’t understand how peer pressure can lead to unprepared pregnancy or possible drug addiction. They don’t understand how a bad choice can lead to incarceration, and they certainly don’t want to even acknowledge how the Bible says in Ecclesiastes 12:1 “Remember now your creator in the days of your youth serve me in your youth, before the difficult days come, and the years draw near when you say, I have no pleasure in them.” (NKJV) because it’s not cool it’s not popular to serve the Lord when your young people always think that’s for old people.  

As mothers, we often take ownership of a sense of entitlement borderline possession when it comes to our children.  Our children are a blessing, a gift from God but they do not belong to us, they are loaned to us for us to raise, to guide, to teach, to encourage, to nurture and to let go and be the God-fearing adults we have trained them to be.  This is why the bible is so clear when it tells us in the book of Proverbs 22:6 to “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn away from it.”(NIV).

" Our children are a blessing, a gift from God but they do not belong to us, they are loaned to us for us to raise, to guide, to teach, to encourage, to nurture and to let go and be the God-fearing adults we have trained them to be."

Now this message is two-fold because I am aware that not every parent has reared their children with full knowledge of the fear of the Lord because some of us are just now learning that ourselves.  Hold that thought I’ll get back to that message. For those parents who have done as it so clearly states in Proverbs take a deep breath and then if your child is over the age of 18 let go! That’s right let go, and let God step into his role of authority in your child’s life.  Pray a sincere Prayer and politely relinquish control and give that child back to God knowing, believing, and trusting that God will work it out for their good. In the book of Jeremiah verse 29:11 the word of God says “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”(NIV)  See this is just a reminder that just as God has plans for us, he also has plans for our children. He wants the absolute best for everyone, so instead of going backward and forwards with arguments and reasoning that goes in one ear and out the other.  Talk to the man with the master plan our Lord and Savior and let him work it out for you and your child. The key is to trust and believe that God can and he will!

   Now for the parent who has just come into their relationship with Christ and you missed the all-important opportunity to share the love of Christ with your child as they were growing up, and guilt is weighing heavy on your heart.  First give that guilt back to the enemy he has no more holds over you, forgive yourself. Once you have sincerely accomplished those two steps live a righteous life, Seriously No Wavering! Because if you are setting an example of the newness and goodness of God in your life, then your life will speak a powerful testimony all on its own and those around you, children included, will begin to respect the God in you and want to give it a try.  This is exactly why the Bible in Matthew 6:33 says: “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and All these things will be given to you as well” (NIV emphasis added). You see when you are seeking God’s kingdom first you are building a relationship of trust, you are establishing a vulnerability between you and God. You are saying this is what I want, but I will trust you Lord First to supply my heart and soul with the healing it needs, and a pure devotion to you so my life can be a living testimony and not only my children but others will see the light of Christ in me, and choose to follow you.


Key Thought: Give your children over to the Lord, he is the man with a Master plan.

Prayer: “Oh Lord, my Sovereign God I come to you today thankful for the gift of being a parent and sincerely want you to take full control of our life. I will trust you, and have faith in you as never before that you can and you will make me and mold me Lord in to a woman of God that is most pleasing unto you, and that you oh Lord will continually Bless, and keep my child(ren) for just as your word says you know the plans you have for all of us, so please Lord place us on the pathway that leads to the plans you have established that are meant to prosper us, and not harm us, and to give us hope and a future Lord and we will be assured to give you all the Glory, and all the Praise, In Jesus Name, Amen."